The valuable time of Maturity - Mário de Andrade

The valuable time of Maturity

I counted my years and discovered that I have
less time to live going forward than I have lived until now.
I have more past than future.
I feel like the boy who received a bowl of candies.
The first ones, he ate ungracious,
but when he realized there were only a few left,
he began to taste them deeply.
I do not have time to deal with mediocrity.
I do not want to be in meetings where parade inflamed egos.
I am bothered by the envious, who seek to discredit
the most able, to usurp their places, 
coveting their seats, talent, achievements and luck.
I do not have time for endless conversations,
useless to discuss about the lives of others
who are not part of mine.
I do not have time to manage sensitivities of people
who despite their chronological age, are immature.
I cannot stand the result that generates 
from those struggling for power.
People do not discuss content, only the labels.
My time has become scarce to discuss labels,
I want the essence, my soul is in a hurry.
Not many candies in the bowl.
I want to live close to human people,
very human, who laugh of their own stumbles,
and away from those turned smug and overconfident
with their triumphs,
away from those filled with self-importance,
Who does not run away from their responsibilities,
Who defends human dignity,
And who only want to walk on the side of truth
and honesty.
The essential is what makes life worthwhile.
I want to surround myself with people,
who know how to touch the hearts of people.
People to whom the hard knocks of life,
taught them to grow with softness in their soul.
Yes I am in a hurry to live with intensity,
that only maturity can bring.
I intend not to waste any part of the goodies
I have left .
I'm sure they will be more exquisite,
that most of which so far I've eaten.
My goal is to arrive to the end satisfied and in peace
with my loved ones and my conscience.
I hope that your goal is the same,
because either way you will get there too... "

Mário Raul de Morais Andrade (Brazilian poet, novelist, musicologist, art historian, critic, and photographer).

UBUNTU - I am because we are & The Sharing Experiment

UBUNTU - I am because we are

An anthropologist proposed a game to the kids in an African tribe. He put a basket full of fruit near a tree and told the kids that whoever got there first won the sweet fruits. When he told them to run, they all took each other’s hands and ran together – and then sat together enjoying their treats. When he asked them why they had run like that as one could have had all the fruits for himself they said, “Ubuntu.” And asked him how anyone can be happy if all the other ones are sad?

UBUNTU in the Xhosa culture means: “I am because we are.”

The above reminded me of an experiment by “Action Against Hunger”

that took place to show us how kids react when they feel inequality between them.

Please take 2 minutes to watch this video about sharing.

We can definitely be taught from children.

You are the teacher - Jiddu Krishnamurti

A transformation of the mind

“What we are trying, in all these discussions and talks here, is to see if we cannot radically bring about a transformation of the mind. Not accept things as they are, but to understand it, to go into it, to examine it, give your heart and your mind, with everything that you have to find out a way of living differently. But that depends on you, and not on somebody else, because in this there is no teacher, no pupil; there is no leader; there is no guru; there is no master, no savior. You yourself are the teacher and the pupil; you are the master; you are the guru; you are the leader; you are everything. And to understand is to transform what is.”

Jiddu Krishnamurti

Pure Potential - Stillness

“You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen, simply wait, be quiet, still and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.”

Franz Kafka

Painting: "Lorette in a green robe against a black background" by Henri Matisse

Control Drama’s

Human beings are addicted to drama, which they create either consciously or on a subconscious level. Why do we create drama? As energy beings, we are constantly looking to acquire more energy.

A control drama, as depicted in The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield, is played by anyone who is low on spiritual energy, to manipulate and steal the energy of another.  This spiritual energy is absolutely critical for our survival, and lack thereof is the prime cause of ALL conflict in the world.

When two people begin an interaction, their energy fields merge into one and there comes the issue of, who is going to control this energy?  If one can get the other to accept their point of view, and see the world as he see’s it, then he has captured both energies, resulting in an instant feeling of euphoria, power, and security.

All of these positive feelings are won at the expense of another person, who then feels off center, anxious and drained of energy. All of these control drama's originate from your childhood, as a defensive measure to counteract the control drama's that your parents played to steal energy from you.

There are 4 types of control drama's:

- Intimidator

- Interrogator

- Aloof

- ‘Poor Me’

Intimidator

For many kids growing up, one or both parents would take a stance of intimidation, and entice their child into feeling afraid and powerless. 

 They would yell at you, scream at you, and ultimately send you to your room, leaving you feeling weak, powerless and drained of energy.

Struggles like these can often be very intense and even traumatic for a child, and as a result, you developed your own control drama to fight back for that energy.  Most respond at first with a 'poor me' drama, where one creates a guilt trip for the intimidator, and if they respond to this, the child will get energy in return, and will continue using that style of control drama throughout their life.

But if the 'poor me' posture goes unnoticed, the only remaining option for the child is to explode into an intimidator themselves, in attempts to regain their stolen energy.  Once this works, the child will exploit the intimidator stance regularly when they're low on energy.

An intimidator may be a very loud and talkative person who tries to force you to give them your attention (energy) by listening to what they have to say. 

They may also be the type of person, who leaves you finding yourself looking over your shoulder, to see where they are and what they will do next.  Devoting your conscious attention to figuring out where someone is, or what they will do, creates a flow of energy to that person. 

Interrogator

An Interrogator is someone who criticizes another, probing, into their world with the specific purpose of finding something wrong.

Once this is found they pounce, and criticize this aspect of another’s life. This type of control  drama will leave you feeling self-conscious around the interrogator, wondering what they are thinking.

If your parents acted this way, you may have interrogated in return, or developed the aloof’s front – lacking concern and sympathy – in hopes they would feel like the interrogation is falling and a resultant energy transfer would occur in your favor. Whichever one worked on your parents would be the same one you use prevalently throughout your life, to this very day.

Aloof

The aloof control drama is perpetrated by distancing oneself from situations and spontaneously acting out to gather people's attention and energy. 

If your parents were distant from you as a child, you were not receiving enough of the nurturing, and loving energy as a child may require. 

The control drama you may have developed to end the distancing would most likely be that of The Interrogator.  You would criticize a characteristic or behavior of theirs to end the distancing, and subsequently, steal the energy you needed from them.

Poor Me

The 'Poor Me' drama is characterized by creating a guilt-trip towards another person, in turn making them feel at fault, resulting in the much-desired transfer of energy. 

Typically, this type of person is quiet, often anxiously waiting for someone to come and ask them what's wrong. 

If someone does come and ask what's wrong, this attention is then exchanged.  Attention is energy; thoughts are energy; and thus, somebody thinking of you translates into energy received.

If this doesn't work for the person, often one will attempt the Aloof control drama until their 'energy tank' is replenished, and their insecurities are temporarily forgotten.  

The Bottom Line: There is a constant battle between people to steal each other's energy.  This matter of energy is the cause of

ALL conflict in the world and the reason that people feel the need to control others.  No human being can evolve until they become consciously aware of the drama they use to manipulate others for energy.

What drama or drama's you use (it could be more than one) to manipulate for energy?

Source: stoptherobbery.com - Accelerating Human Evolution

Get rid of those possessions

Possessions are not just physical possessions.
Possessions are ideas.
Most people are choked to death by concepts and ideas that they carry around with them; usually not their own but their parents' and society's.
Those are the possessions you've got to get rid of to get through the eye of the needle and it has absolutely nothing to do with physical possessions.


John Lennon, 1980

Shed some light on you!

Free yourself from the agreements you have made with you.

We have been domesticated since our birth to understand and accept everything that surrounds us. These are our beliefs or else agreements as per Don Miguel Ruiz.

We can always switch old harmful agreements to new beneficial ones.

The four agreements are the following:

1.    Be Impeccable With Your Word

2.    Don’t Take Anything Personally

3.    Don’t Make Assumptions

4.    Always Do Your Best

1.    Be Impeccable With Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2.    Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3.    Don't Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4.     Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Don Miguel Ruiz is a Mexican author of new age spiritualist and neoshamanistic  texts and his teaching is significantly influenced  by the work of Carlos Castaneda.

Self-Awareness - Are you Extraverted or Introverted?

Sensing or Intuitive? Judging or Perceiving? Feeling or Thinking?

Take this test to achieve personal growth, balance, understanding of yourself, and create possibilities.

Knowledge of type can help people express their spirituality in ways that are comfortable and rewarding. For people who are already active spiritually, an understanding of type can direct them toward new more satisfying practices.

Click on the link below to take the Personality test based on Jung and Briggs Myers typology

Jung Typology Test

The Dichotomies are:

Extraversion (E) -	(I) Introversion
Sensing (S) -	(N) Intuition
Thinking (T) -	(F) Feeling
Judgment (J) -	(P) Perception

All types are equal

The goal of knowing about personality type is to understand and appreciate differences between people. As all types are equal, there is no best type.

What Each Preference Can Offer

Extraversion Outwardly directed energy needed to move into action Responsiveness to what is going on in the environment A natural inclination to converse and to network	Introversion Inwardly directed energy needed for focused reflection Stability from attending to enduring ideas A natural tendency to think and work alone
Sensing A mastery of the facts Knowledge of what materials and resources are available Appreciation of knowing and doing what works	Intuition Insight and attention to meanings A grasp of what is possible and what the trends are Appreciation of doing what hasn’t been tried before
Thinking Analysis of the pros and cons of situations, even when they have a personal stake An ability to analyze and solve problems Want to discover the “truth” and naturally notice logical inconsistencies	Feeling Knowledge of what is important to people and adhere to that in the face of opposition The ability to build relationships and to be persuasive Desire to uncover the greatest good in a situation and notice when people may be harmed
Judging Organization, planning, and follow through on projects Push to get things settled and decided Appreciation of well-organized efficiency	Perceiving Quickly and flexibly responding to the needs of the moment Strive to keep things open so new information may be gathered Appreciation of the need for spontaneity and exploration

The Four Temperaments are:
Guardian (SJ)
Supervisor, Inspector, Provider, Protector
All Guardians share the following core characteristics:

• Guardians pride themselves on being dependable, helpful, and hard-working.
• Guardians make loyal mates, responsible parents, and stabilizing leaders.
• Guardians tend to be dutiful, cautious, humble, and focused on credentials and traditions.
• Guardians are concerned citizens who trust authority, join groups, seek security, prize gratitude, and dream of meting out justice.

Famous Guardians
George Washington, Sandra Day O'Connor, George H. W. Bush, Mother Teresa, Hary S. Truman, Elisabeth II, Sam Walton, Martha Stewart

Idealist (NF)
Teacher, Counselor, Champion, Healer
All Idealists share the following core characteristics:

• Idealists are enthusiastic, they trust their intuition, yearn for romance, seek their true self, prize meaningful relationships, and dream of attaining wisdom.
• Idealists pride themselves on being loving, kindhearted, and authentic.
• Idealists tend to be giving, trusting, spiritual, and they are focused on personal journeys and human potentials.
• Idealists make intense mates, nurturing parents, and inspirational leaders.

Famous Idealists
Mohandas Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Nelson Mandela, Joan Baez, Mikhail Girbachev, Oprah Winfrey, Albert Schweitzer, Princess Diana


 Rational (NT)
Fieldmarshal, Mastermind, Inventor, Architect
All Rationals share the following core characteristics:

• Rationals tend to be pragmatic, skeptical, self-contained, and focused on problem-solving and systems analysis.
• Rationals pride themselves on being ingenious, independent, and strong willed.
• Rationals make reasonable mates, individualizing parents, and strategic leaders.
• Rationals are even-tempered, they trust logic, yearn for achievement, seek knowledge, prize technology, and dream of understanding how the world works.

Famous Rationals
Albert Einstein, Marie Curie, Walt Disney, Maria Montessori, Napoleon Bonaparte, Margaret Thatcher, Isaac Newton, Ayn Rand

Artisan (SP) Promoter, Crafter, Composer,  Performer
All Artisans share the following core characteristics:

• Artisans tend to be fun-loving, optimistic, realistic, and focused on the here and now.
• Artisans pride themselves on being unconventional, bold, and spontaneous.
• Artisans make playful mates, creative parents, and troubleshooting leaders.
• Artisans are excitable, trust their impulses, want to make a splash, seek stimulation, prize freedom, and dream of mastering action skills.

Famous Artisans
Wolfgang Mozart, Jacqueline Onasis, Bruce lee, Katherine Hepburn, Donald Trump, Madonna, Magic Johnson, Marilyn Monroe

“Whatever the circumstances of your life, the understanding of type can make your perceptions clearer, your judgements sounder, and your life closer to your heart’s desire.”

Isabel Bryggs Myers